Will you be made complete (whole)?
Is your heart ache making or breaking you?
The definition of whole is a thing that is complete in itself
God’s
heart aches will lead you to Him
Your
heart aches are the things you love
To have a feeling of love for; to regard with affection
or good will; as, to love one's children and friends; to love
one's country; to love things, positions, passions, or status, to love one's God.
This will always lead you back to you no matter
what you do or what is done for you it is never enough because it leads back to
you. Because you will try to fix it by
whatever means possible and it never works. When it come back you find another fix but no satisfaction so you go
after the next available thing. Whatever you try is never enough to make you whole
and satisfy the heart aches of that particular love
We want to fix things that only God can fix
Love is what you have in the
heart not in the field. In the field you
always think that someone else has it better than you, someone gets more opportunities
than you, someone is loved more than you, someone has more things than you, your
case is worse than everybody’s so you want that fixed, however your fixes are
not enough because you have the wrong perception of the problem and the
solution.
Whatever ever you are longing for, it does not matter what it is, it may be something that you want, to hold, to look
good, to be smart, to have an education, to be married, to have children if you
are married or to get married and have children, to be single (which is not the
same as being unmarried), to be rich, to be famous etc. It will not be enough because what you desire
is to fill a place in you that belongs to God.
He loves you, cares for you, will keep you, feed you, take care of you,
anything you ask that is in His word you can have because He is your husband
but He will not give you that thing that you love more than Him. He is a jealous God!
Trying to fix things that can’t be fixed causes wasted time,
frustration, and misuse of authority
RACHEL. Who is Rachel? Her name means (Lamb) - the youngest daughter of Laban, who is the brother of Rebekkah, who is the mother of Jacob. She is Jacobs second wife. What is known of the character of Rachel? One of the first noticeable traits of her character was deception and lying in that she stole her father's idols and hid them from him when he accused Jacob of taking them. The Bible does not say why she thought she needed those idols, but perhaps she though that they could help her in some form or fashion, maybe even in child bearing. She seems to be more like Laban her father, in that she intentionally hid from Jacob the fact that she had stolen her fathers idols when they left to return to land of Canaan. She envied her sister and demanded children from her husband. Gen 30:1 And when Rachel saw that she bare Jacob no children, Rachel envied her sister; and said unto Jacob, Give me children, or else I die.
She was beautiful on the outside but on the
inside she needed change – She stole her father’s idols and carried idol god’s
with Jacob when they left her father’s house to return with Jacob to his home
and the consequence of that was mentioned in (Jeremiah 31:15-22). She was so stuck on what she though would
make Jacob happy she lost track of all the blessing that God had given
her. No matter what you think would
make you beautiful, make you look good to other people, make you feel good
because of this or that it will not be enough.
Facts: She was loved
of Jacob – She was beautiful to Jacob – She was Jacob’s favorite -
Jacob only wanted her – She was offered the best of
everything – her children were blessed one of them (Joseph) saved the nation of
Israel. Her name means lamb (lambs need constant
care) so she would always think like a lamb and never grew up to a mature
state.
She had a special heart ache
(she wanted Children by her husband – she was barren), the following are the characteristics of her heart ache:
- Low self esteem
- Envied her sister even thou her sister was not loved
- Discontent because she wanted children
- Fretful and impatient with Jacob because he did not produce children
- Greatly grieved because of lack of children
- Moved Jacob to anger because he could do nothing to give her children
- Being beautiful was not enough
- Being loved was not enough
- Being the favorite was not enough
- Being the only one that Jacob wanted was not enough
- Receiving the best of everything was not enough
- She had one son by her maid and that was not enough
- She had a second son by her maid and that was not enough
- Finally God remembered her and gave her a son even as she was having him she wanted another that was still not enough Genesis 30:23-24 23
- She became pregnant and gave birth to a son and said, "God has taken away my disgrace." 24 She named him Joseph, and said, "May the LORD add to me another son."
- She now has three son's and that is still not enough, she wanted another son.
Jeremiah 31:15-22
15 Thus saith the LORD; A voice was heard in Ramah,
lamentation, and bitter weeping; Rahel weeping for her children refused to be
comforted for her children, because they were not.
16 Thus saith the LORD; Refrain thy voice from weeping, and
thine eyes from tears: for thy work shall be rewarded, saith the LORD; and they
shall come again from the land of the enemy.
17 And there is hope in thine end, saith the LORD, that thy
children shall come again to their own border. 18 I have surely heard Ephraim bemoaning himself thus; Thou
hast chastised me, and I was chastised, as a bullock unaccustomed to the yoke:
turn thou me, and I shall be turned; for thou art the LORD my God. 19 Surely after that I was turned, I repented; and after
that I was instructed, I smote upon my thigh: I was ashamed, yea, even
confounded, because I did bear the reproach of my youth.20 Is Ephraim my dear son? is he a pleasant child? for since
I spake against him, I do earnestly remember him still: therefore my bowels are
troubled for him; I will surely have mercy upon him, saith the LORD. 21 Set thee up waymarks, make thee high heaps: set thine
heart toward the highway, even the way which thou wentest: turn again, O virgin
of Israel,
turn again to these thy cities. 22 How long wilt thou go about, O thou backsliding daughter?
for the LORD hath created a new thing in the earth, A woman shall compass a
man. KJV
Who is Leah? Her name means (Gazelle). She is the oldest daughter of Laban, who is the brother of Rebekkah, who is the mother of Jacob. She is Jacobs first wife. Laban, her father deceitfully gave her in
marriage to Jacob instead of her younger sister Rachel (Genesis 29:16-30).
Although Rachel was the more beautiful of the two daughters of Laban and
obviously was Jacob's favorite wife, the Lord blessed Leah and Jacob with six
sons-Reuben, Simeon, Levi, Judah (Genesis 29:31-35), Issachar,
and Zebulun (Genesis 30:17-20) - and a daughter, Dinah (Genesis 30:21). Leah's
maid, Zilpah, added two more sons: Gad and Asher (Genesis 30:9-13).
What is known of the character her character, she was obedient
to her father and to her husband. She was willing
to make peace with her husband, but never blamed him for her dilemma. With the help of her father she sneaked and
married her sister fiancee and did not tell her sister. She deceived her sister and Jacob because she did not tell them that she was going to marry Jacob. She hoped to have him as her husband only.
She blamed her sister for stealing her husband. She believed that it was her
sister's fault that she did not have her husband by herself. She perceived
that her sister took him from her. She believed that marrying him first was good enough for him. She thought that since she married him first, she must have done something wrong to lose him, therefore, it was just a matter
of doing something right to get him back.
She was not a complainer but she kept those thought in her mind. She wanted the best but did not understand
that she already had the best. She
searched for love of her husband in her children and was willing to use them to
get to him to love her.
Facts: She was not
considered beautiful by man but that was not God’s idea of beauty, she loved a man that
did not love her, would never love her because he did not choose her. If he had chosen her perhaps she would have
been beautiful to him, but she was disillusioned because she though she could do
something to make him love her but she could not. She did not understand that she was beautiful
because God said so not man. She kept
trying to please people and though that this next thing that I do will do it
but she did not know that other people’s idea of you cannot be your reality.
She was submitted to her father and to her husband. She never blamed her husband or her father
for her predicament. She never asked to
be free or to leave because she was not loved.
She thought that she could make love happen so she used people or
whatever she could to make that happen.
God saw that she was not loved so he opened her womb and blessed her
with an abundance of children and one of them was used to bring Jesus Christ who came
to save the world. Rachel’s son helped save a nation but her descendant was in the bloodline of Jesus Christ who saved the
world. Her name means gazelle (gazelles
are wild and can take care of themselves) so she was always going to be able to
make it thru whatever she had to.
Letting God take care of her was not in her mindset at first but she
learned that there are some things that you cannot change. She is remembered as Jacob’s ugly wife that
gave birth to the son through whom Jesus Christ came into the earth.
Her special heart ache
(she wanted her husband to love her - she was unloved) the results of which are as follows:
1.
She perceived that she
had lost her husband's love to her sister
2.
No one loved her, no one was making her their choice
3.
No husband prospects so
she settled for being second
4.
She was the other woman
not by her husband’s choice but by her father’s
5.
She was never going to
have the upper hand no matter what happened.
6.
She thought she could
change things by what she did or how she looked
7. God
blessed her with 4 sons to encourage her so that she would have a family and
some children that loved her unconditionally. But that was not enough she did not see that as a blessing all she
wanted to do was use that blessing to help her win a love that she had lost to
her sister that was never lost, you can’t lose what never belonged to you.
8.
God blessed her with a son because she was not
loved she named him REUBEN [ROO ben] (behold a son) - the firstborn son of
Jacob, born to Leah in Paddan Aram
(Genesis 29:31-32; 35:23). Leah named her first son Reuben because the Lord had
looked upon her sorrow at being unloved by her husband. By presenting a son to Jacob, she hoped he would respond to her in
love. But that was not enough
9. God
blessed her with a second son. She named
him Simeon[SIM ih un] (God hears) - Genesis 29:33 33 She conceived again, and
when she gave birth to a son she said, "Because the LORD heard that I am not loved, he gave me this one
too." So she named him Simeon. But that was not enough
10. God blessed
her with a third son. She named him Levi
- [LEE vigh] (joined) Genesis 29:34 34
Again she conceived, and when she gave birth to a son she said, "Now at last my husband will become
attached to me, because I have borne him three sons." So he was named
Levi. NIV But that was not
enough
11. Finally she
get's the revelation that Jacob’s not loving her has nothing to do with what she
can do or not do it was always his choice about who he loved. Now she understands that it is God that
really loves her and God gave her another son and she called him Judah 29:35 35
She conceived again, and when she gave birth to a son she said, "This time I will praise the
LORD." So she named him Judah. Then she stopped having children. NIV. It was thru Judah that the whole world was
saved. But that was not enough
12. Now she
begins to compete with her sister and continuously looks for opportunity to
spend time with Jacob. The opportunity
comes and she jumps on it. Surely all of this will be over if I can win my
husband over my sister. I want what she
has and that will be enough. But that was not enough
13. She
uses mandrakes to acquire from her sister time with Jacob. She
has a fifth son and now she is using that to compete with her sister 18 Then
Leah said, "God has rewarded me for giving my maidservant to my
husband." So she named him Issachar. But that was not enough
14. Leah
conceived again and bore Jacob a sixth son. 20 Then Leah said, "God has
presented me with a precious gift. This
time my husband will treat me with honor, because I have borne him six
sons." So she named him Zebulun.
15. But that was not enough
Look at what she says in this passage Genesis 30:14-21 14
During wheat harvest, Reuben went out into the fields and found some mandrake
plants, which he brought to his mother Leah. Rachel said to Leah, "Please
give me some of your son's mandrakes ."
15 But she said to her, "Wasn't it enough that you took away my
husband? Will you take my son's mandrakes too?" "Very well,"
Rachel said, "he can sleep with you tonight in return for your son's
mandrakes ."
16 So when Jacob came in from the fields that evening, Leah went out
to meet him. "You must sleep with me," she said. "I have hired
you with my son's mandrakes ." So he slept with her that night.
17 God
listened to Leah, and she became pregnant and bore Jacob a fifth son.
18 Then Leah said, "God has rewarded me for giving my
maidservant to my husband." So she named him Issachar.
19 Leah conceived again and bore Jacob a sixth son.
20 Then Leah said, "God has presented me with a precious gift.
This time my husband will treat me with honor, because I have borne him six
sons." So she named him Zebulun.
21 Some time later she gave birth to a daughter and named her Dinah.
NIV
Rachael wanted children.
She needed that to complete her life, she did not want to live without
children, she wanted them so bad that she said give me children or I will
die. In fact at the birth of her second
child she did die.
Genesis 30:1-2 30:1 When Rachel saw that she was not bearing
Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob,
"Give me children, or I'll die!"
2 Jacob became angry with her and said, "Am I in the
place of God, who has kept you from having children?" NIV
Do you have a
heartache that is leading you to die in some area?
Leah wanted Jacob to love her as his wife. She was willing to use her children and even
purchase him sexually with her mandrakes and God listened to her. Mandrakes were pagan fertility practices.
Are you willing to be second just to have a man?
Are you willing to raise his children knowing that he is
comfortable with his wife and is not planning to leave even thought he has been
telling you that for years?
Is your makeup the reason you look beautiful?
Could you stop using makeup today and still think that you
look beautiful?
Do you need to be constantly reminded that you look great?
What is the price that you would pay to get your heartache
fix?
Both of these women were blessed of God, but they did not see themselves blessed. Each of them kept trying to fix the heart ache that they imagined would make things complete,(whole)
Can you see your blessing?
Do you know how much the Lord loves you?
Is your heart ache bigger to you than all that God has given you? If so, consider the matter and let the Lord make you complete (whole).
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